I say it often: at Brooklyn Boudoir, it's about more than “sexy” pictures.
The photos are most definitely a perk. But, you'll see, it's WAY more about how the photos, and the whole experience, make you FEEL.
When you FEEL sexy...damn. There's just no feeling like the confidence boost you get when you know you look damn good. For too many of us, that feeling doesn't present itself very often -- certainly not as often as it used to.
I mean, do you remember those days... maybe you were in your 20s, maybe your early 30s, when you felt like you just RAN this city? When you were kicking ass and taking names, when you wouldn't start your party until 10pm, when every weekend was a new opportunity for adventure?
Were those times perfect? Oh no, certainly they were not. I've cared far too much about silly boys who ghosted, that one who texted on my birthday, that time I got dumped right before a friend's wedding... luckily this was all before the age of Tinder! BUT... I digress.
There's often confusion about the purpose of boudoir photography, probably because there are so many different interpretations of it. Some boudoir photographers present their work to the public as the ultimate gift for your spouse. Some boudoir photographers present their work to the public as "naughty photos".
Boudoir photography is something very different for me and for my clients. It's not about doing something "naughty" and it's usually not about doing something for anyone else. It's about getting that feeling back. It's about FEELING CONFIDENT AND STRONG. It's about knowing that she's still in there somewhere. It's about crushing your self-doubt. And it's about loving yourself...or at least learning to.
Can you do all that with your clothes on? Yes. Obviously you can. So why strip down?
Let me ask you...isn't that when you feel the most vulnerable? Isn't that when you feel the most uncertain of yourself? For most women, it is. I know that feeling of "OH GOD. OH MY GOD. WHAT is THAT!?" as I spot a new bulge or dimple on my naked body in the mirror. I know how devastating it is to see that photo that someone tagged you in on Facebook...the one you didn't even realize they were taking and you look like........ ***UN-TAG! UN-TAG!!! RED ALERT!***
It's a lot harder for us to love our stripped-down selves. But I know that if I can show you how incredible you are, how beautiful you are, how SEXY you are, WITHOUT your clothes...that you can rock some new found self-esteem whether you're wearing anything or not.
SEXY is not something that you should only feel for your partner. It is something you should feel for yourself. It's infinitely powerful. There's no telling what you can do with that kind of confidence on your side.
I get the emails every single day. Emails from women who have been following along for years, wishing they could be like the women that I post on my blog/website/social media. They assure me that they are nowhere near as sexy or confident or photogenic as my usual clients. I assure them, without even seeing them, THAT YES, THEY ARE.
These aren't models. They are women just like you and me. They've got crazy lives and children and baggage and cellulite, and emotions and insecurities. They’ve been hit by 2020 in all sorts of ways and more than anything they just want a break.
Women don't come in to me and throw their clothes off and say "OK! I'm ready to be naked! I know I'm hot, so let's DO THIS!!!". They come in nervous and sweating through their makeup application. They come in with outfits they "can't believe" they're going to wear in daylight. They come in doubting their beauty. They come in thinking that they are going to be the first woman I'm not able to get a single good photo of.
I prove them wrong. Every time.
Yes, I want you to look GREAT in your photos. And I also want you to FEEL great, because when you feel great, you inevitably look great too, which makes you feel great, and on and on the cycle of self-love perpetuates.
Ready to look good & feel good? I’m currently booking late spring & early summer 2021. Let’s chat!